In my side story, the character, Noshee, was a cheater. It's part of his backstory. If you'd like to read the side stories check them out here. I'd talked to a friend about attraction. In the context of marriage. He's been married for several years and loves his wife dearly.
One day he stood in a never ending line at Starbucks, totally submerged in his crackberry. A woman bumped him from behind by accident and apologized. My friend turned around, smiled, and said, "No problem."
Her red lips widened, revealing her white teeth. "Aren't those addicting?"
"Ugh. I can't help but check my emails everytime my phone vibrates."
The blond-haired lady took out her iPhone from her purse and waved it. "Tell me about it."
After receiving their coffees, they stood off to the side. What happened next was a fury of non-sexual flirting. My friend found himself cracking jokes. She laughed and crinkled her nose. He listened to her personal stories of work life, egged her on with penetrating questions. She noticeably became intrigued by him, not taking any notice of the morning sun glinting off his wedding band.
It wasn't until he mentioned his wife did she withdraw and exclaimed she'd better not be late today.
Unlike my character, my friend didn't follow through with his instincts. But was he in the wrong for feeling attracted to the nice blond lady? Most people would judge him in the wrong. And for those who would dare judge him, he felt guilty.
Everybody gets up in morning, brushes their teeth, washes their face, fix their hair, applies makeup if you're a woman, or a guy if you're like that, puts on nice duds, maybe spritz some eau de toilette or parfum, and leave the house looking like a million bucks. Lo and behold even married people do this.
"I wanna look nice."
To look attractive. What my friend did, by following his instincts to be attractive, to lure the woman in, is his way. It's always been his way. It's how men through out our animal history have been. We want to attract women.
Are women guilty of this? Hell yeah! Married or not, women love it when guys find them hot. It makes them feel good. It can help boost their confidence. And I'd suggest they play along. Have fun. That's why they have girls' night out. They want to be checked out in a protective environment among other hens, while the cocks, that's roosters for you gutter-minded, prance around in heat. Stalkers please keep out.
I told my friend not to feel guilty. Guilt, something I explore at length in my book, is a victim emotion. That is left for another post. His instinct of feeling attractive, to want to talk to other women, is an ingrained behavior. That's how his greatest of grandfathers, the Geico caveman, spread his genes. The human side, the conscious side of our minds, shouldn't follow through with an affair, like Noshee did.
In the end, my friend went home with a surprise bouquet of bright red tulips. He realized through his guilt that he loved his wife, appreciated the home they've built and got it on. Actually, I don't know if he got it on.